SELF TALK

Take a little break, breath deeply and enjoy these tips! 


The way you speak to yourself has more power and energy than most any influence in your life.  How you see yourself is exactly how you speak to yourself and vice versa.

Do you behave with over confidence to cover for your fears?  Do you often tell yourself that you cannot accomplish something that you greatly desire to do or have?  Do you awaken often with a gnawing feeling of insecurity?

You likely learned self talk from parents, teachers, peers,  ...and culture; often by way of media and advertising.  In order to change your self talk for desired success and self improvement, YOU must take over the script.  But do it with realism and eliminate false expectation or ideas floated by the current of culture.

Using these simple steps will transform your energy and self view.  Start now, then observe and test your daily progress.  Make mental note of how others treat you and how the small things seem to "go more your way."

Life is about flow, not resistance.  Think of an infant as teacher.  You were once an infant who first failed, then succeeded at walking, talking and understanding life in your own sphere.  You naturally worked at what you had to without doubt and only a bit of fear.  You fell, got up and learned a new language by the time you were three or four years old.  Think of that part of yourself the next time you hesitate to move forward toward your dreams.

Four Simple Steps

1)  FEEL vs. AM   When you experience an uncomfortable feeling such as sadness for no apparent reason:  Tell yourself that you FEEL sad.  Never tell yourself or any other human being that you are sad or I am sad.  Feelings are fleeting and can be processed through heart, mind and logic.  We all feel different things at different times, so don't identify with feelings that will not serve you.  Better to work through with "For some reason, I 'feel' sad right now.  I will have a brief look at it and go on with my business.  It is just a feeling.  Suddenly as I become engaged with what I am doing, I no longer seem to feel sad.  Therefore I am not sad, but just felt that way briefly. Sadness is a part of life that comes with loss and disappointment.  Be real and congruent with the feeling and allow it to take its course when life's challenges present themselves.  Time creates healing, peace, enlightenment,  and new opportunities as you allow your life to move forward.

2) "I Could never Be or Do."  'Never say never' as the saying goes.  I have often heard people tell themselves that they could never do, have or be something that they desire.   Telling yourself you could never be what it is you have a secret desire to do or be will assure your defeat.  You watch great dancers or observe a beautiful painting and moan to yourself or to a companion that "you could never". If you desire is strong enough and it is truly something that you want, you CAN.  If your "I could never" comes from a place of desire where the thing is too distant and your desire is not deep enough to attain it, or comes from envy, then it is not really yours anyway and you are just submitting to a defeatist moan because maybe you want to have everything.  Accept your gifts piece by piece and all of your TRUE desires will come to pass with your work and dedication.  Observe how your own words can make you feel frustrated.  Act on your power to change them and allow the feeling of confidence this simple act can bring.

3) Breathe again now and smile.  The Laws of Attraction prove that the better you feel about yourself the more you attract to you. Give yourself a break and smile at yourself.  You deserve your smile and giving it away to others will send another one back to you.  Remember that the more you encourage and are positive toward others, that "good feeling" energy is incorporated more deeply within you.  Expect that energy from others.  Keep your distance from those who talk about themselves at the expense of comfortable conversation.  Unless you are a paid therapist or coach, you do not need to subject yourself to others' drama.  There is virtue in selfishness. The more you grow, the more you are able to give.  As you give yourself the gift of intelligent self talk, others will be the recipient of a more comfortable presence.

4) Simply this: Words to avoid.  TRY implies fail;  HOPE implies desperate circumstances;  SHOULD discourages flow for yourself and others.  Most people don't care to be told what they should do.
Instead:  I will work to make it on time. (not "try").    I expect the best outcome. (I don't hope for things, I work toward my goals).  I plan to take an art class. ( I plan to take an art class because I love art....If I don't love it, I do not need to do it).

Watch how you care for yourself.  Much is revealed in your self talk.  Your brain is a computer programmed by an adult you.  Inputting the best programming and information will condition your brain work to for you not against you.  Your thoughts are important!  They ARE you.

THE WARRIOR PROCESS

Empowerment requires courage. The evolution of personal consciousness requires one key to open that door; courage  It is the necessary element to self realization and self acceptance.  Courage defines the personal journey. Action with courage fosters awareness and barriers between the self and the Divine Self begin to diminish.  The true definition of courage is the challenge to become your true self; the accomplished self always testing the boundaries and opening the doors to personal desire and self realization, with logic and reason maintaining balance.

It is then that one realizes that aloneness is merely an illusion and that personal journey is in alignment with the One. The doors of perception open wide and responsibility for your insights or "knowingness" becomes the self-determined and aware process with the Divine partnership now undertaken.

Each day offers new challenges.  The warrior process brings joy, and a vibrant and attractive energy of spirit. 

"That moment when one definitely commits, then Providence moves too.  Boldness has genius power and magic in it."  ~GOETHE

"I have learned over the years that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear."    ~Rosa Parks